Thursday, April 26, 2007

"D": Dining out

It's not my favorite essay, but I liked what Fisher had in this segment. She continues to link dining with celebration and sensual pleasure, and she frowns upon those who see "dining out" as a chore or routine habit.

"Dining out" is usually special to me just because it's too costly. I wonder how it would be different to work in an industry with regular business lunches and dinners. Just combining work and business etiquette with eating would, I think, steal away the sense of anything special.

She goes on to recount how she entertained a bigwig by choosing just the right restaurant, ordering the meal and arranging for the bill and tips in advance.

I found this a trifle braggy and wondered what everyone else thought. I suppose she was seen as a leading figure in entertaining, and so her personal anecdotes were welcome advice. And ordering for others in a dining-out scenario seemed archaic.

On the other hand, as a woman, she may have been displaying her own power, as the host who could commandeer the best table, service, pick the food and wine -- traditional men's roles in the time she speaks of.

3 comments:

Ben said...

At first I thought her anecdote was archaic. Then I tried to think what it might be like today -- I think it might work, and it would be a really neat thing to try.

Erin said...

I kind of liked this essay, mostly because I had never really thought about it before. Dining out is still a treat for me, but the men in my office go out to eat every day at lunch. I can't imagine that they find anything special about it anymore. I have had a few "business lunches" since taking my current job, and I find them rather impractical. My co-worker and I inevitably fall into chatting rather than working, which is fine with me but is not what we're there for.

I found the bigwig anecdote to be braggy, too, but I was interested in the concept. This is something that would never occur to me to do, but I kind of like the idea. It is more like eating at someone's home.

cl said...

Maybe she meant that food and other sensual pleasures were never meant to be mixed with routine. I don't know. I liked the part where she said she didn't want to be distracted with "wifely chit-chat."